Why is love blind

And so love is blind and people in love do not clearly see their partners negative and frustrating traits. They are blinded from them, and instead create an idealized image, one that only focuses on positive characteristics of their partner.

We idealize the person we love as it tends to show us what we desire in a partner. Projecting what we deem as our ideal mate. For example, when we are leaning towards an interest, decision or a want we become inclined in a certain way. We cast aside all negative thoughts related and only see what we want to see.

This idealization of someone you love could also be considered a defence mechanism of sorts, one that helps us to justify our decision in remaining with the partner we have chosen.

Allowing us to convince ourselves, and others around us, that the person we have fallen in love with is the ideal partner for us - even when that might not be the case.

The same defence mechanism is typical when we go through with a big purchase, like a car, house or an expensive piece of furniture. This is because we are stubborn and set in our ways. Very rarely wanting to change our minds. A mesmerizing addiction that has us hooked. When we first fall in love normally the person is someone who generally fits into a type you see yourself with. In simpler terms, this person fits the criteria your mind has created in order for you to fall in love.

We are still figuring out their likes and dislikes, habits and personal taste - causing us to keep them positively elevated in our minds. Learning the details of their personalities with rose coloured glasses on. This is primarily a condition that affects the early phases of a new relationship. It is normal and often a very good thing to dedicate unequal time and energy to a new relationship. However, as things stabilize, your new found love can cause you to create unhealthy distance from the trusted people in your life.

Some people can be downright rude to their loved ones. The danger is isolating yourself from needed insight and wisdom from people who know you best. Without the presence and voice of those trusted people surrounding you, you could be blind to helpful advice and observations that would ultimately benefit you. Love can intoxicate you to the point that you act outside of your character within the relationship. Your eagerness to keep the relationship positive can keep you from being honest.

You discount your own opinions and simply try to please your significant other. Despite the faulty experiment, one of the two couples who got married, Amber and Barnett, are still together a year after filming the show, crediting their bond to the unconventional way they met. Jessica Colarossi is a science writer for The Brink. She graduated with a BS in journalism from Emerson College in , with focuses on environmental studies and publishing.

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